Time to redecorate?

Updated: Aug 4, 2020

My sister called me last year and told me it was time....she wanted to create change in her life. If you know me you know those words make me pretty excited....I love a good makeover in any form!

She was ready for a complete redo of her house. She wanted to create a home that she loved. She wanted to be surrounded by beauty and have a home that made her feel calm and peaceful.

The before

I am not a professional decorator but I do love to decorate. I believe creating a beautiful home is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and your family.

This was a big project, we spent months researching, planning, and saving. Before we spent any money or made any big changes we had endless discussions on exactly what her vision was. Once we were clear on what she wanted to create, we then made detailed plans on how to implement her vision.

My sister's vision of her home took over a year to create. There were lots of steps, but even in the small steps, she found new happiness. As we accomplished each step, the reality became closer and closer to the home she had envisioned and the result was even more joyful than she had imagined.

I realized that this process of redoing my sister's house is very similar to how my clients create a life that they love.

Taking action to change our lives might seem overwhelming. To "redecorate" our lives and make significant changes takes courage - but it is so worth it. My sister's hard work and planning gave her a home she is proud of and loves being in.

It won't happen overnight but if you take the following steps you will see how you can create the beauty you desire in your life.

1. Let it Go....

After my sister took inventory of the items in her home she realized that 90% of the items in her home brought her zero joy. These items didn't represent her current taste and most of these items she realized she didn't even choose. They just somehow accumulated in her home and she ended with a home that stopped bringing her joy.

This is similar to our thinking and results in our lives. We accumulate beliefs and ideas that might not be serving you or representing who you are today. You might find yourself waking up one day and wonder what has happened to your life. Why aren't you getting the results you want?

Just because you have believed things for a long time doesn't make theses beliefs true or useful. In order to decide if you want to keep believing your current thoughts, you have to examine your thinking and start giving yourself permission to let these thoughts go. Remember we think over 60,000 thoughts a day and most are subconscious so the odds are we all have a significant amount of useless thoughts that aren't serving us.

2. Foundation

My sister's home has beautiful bones but she realized that she had to strip it down to those bones so she can build on the beauty of those bones. She had to start fresh. Choosing the right basics for her home was essential. The right color pallet for the paint, carpet, and furniture was one of the most important steps in creating her vision.

The Basics

Investing in quality paint, flooring, and furniture that will endure the test of time will actually save you money in the end. This same concept is similar to investing in your mental health. Investing in the right tools for your emotional well being will also give you lifetime returns.

Investing in a good emotional foundation looks like spending time with yourself daily, learning new skills, and having the courage to being vulnerable. Learning how to process negative emotions and creating daily habits that enable you to live life purposefully will give you stronger emotional health. You make real traction with changing your life when your realize the value of outside help. Being smart about what you are not good at and realizing your limitations and investing in professionals will amplify the results in your life.

3. Learning to make decisions purposefully

To me, this is the fun part. This is what we call the "layering" in decorating. It is the layering that can take a drab room to fab. Combining textures and colors in a room is what gives a room it's unique warmth and beauty. This is where you can highlight your individual's taste and vision.

When we first started this project my sister would always say "I don't care" or "I don't even know what I want". But after months of research and making choices, she started developing her individual style and could make decisions about what brought her joy and what was beautiful to her.

I often hear my clients say..."I don't even know what I want at this point". We get so used to feeling numb emotionally or going through the motions in our lives that we stop developing the skill of noticing what brings us joy.

To regain this skill you need to start small. I started by having my sister invest time looking at different rooms until she could begin to notice what spoke to her. She had to invest time in developing her own taste and eye.